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My parenting these days is less than stellar. In fact, I have never been too great at this mommying this, and these days I'm pretty much drowning in it. Summer is here, which means heat and long hours stuck indoors and two children at home all of the time with no breaks for my weekly Bible study or neighborhood playgroups. As far as I can tell, this state of affairs leads to one thing: all out war between brothers.
Calvin and Hobbes are only a year and a half apart, and they are one another's favorite playmates. Even when we go to playgroups or parties with other children, they tend to stick together and ignore the other kids. Most of the time, this is fine. But it's not working out so well now that we are confined to this small house for good portions of the day. They love one another fiercely, but they can't be apart, even when they are fighting. I am so overwhelmingly tired of breaking up fights or of teaching them once again to ask nicely, to take turns, to share or play alone for awhile. The only solution I have found is putting on a video, and I am doing WAY too much of that lately.
Getting out of the house is great, but we can only go to the pool, museum, library, or mall playground so often. Too many trips out in a week turn my little homebody Calvin into a monster. And now that the humidity and heat have kicked in, we basically have until 8:59 am to get in any outdoors time that doesn't involve water. The water restrictions mean that I can't use the sprinkler hose or the baby pool in the backyard too often, and these were my lifeline last year.
I think you are getting the picture. Have you been here? Do you have any suggestions? I know this is an important time for my children to learn to cooperate, to speak kindly to one another, and to play independently when they need to. I want to foster a pleasant environment in my home, and to teach my children to respect one another. That is hard when I am so worn out from the constant bickering that I get impatient and start yelling and picking fights too. Sometimes it's like we have three children and no adults. Help!